God is there and that that’s who’s doing the curing, that’s who’s doing the helping.

Cary Nicholas

For the past three years, Cary Nicholas has been a Stephen Minister. Stephen Ministry is a one-on-one ministry in which caregivers are trained to provide gentle, caring, confidential and consistent listening to someone going through a difficult life situation.

One of the things that’s kind of amazing about being a Stephen Minister is the very beginning of it, because the training – it sounds appalling, 50 hours. I mean, who has 50 hours? It’s ridiculous! Nobody has 50 hours unless they just decide “I do. I’m going to do it.”

I could not imagine what this training was going to be. I think there were six of us, and Beth and Taylor, who met together all those hours and just had such an experience of learning and deepening and fun and stress and looking into ourselves in a way that was – I think all of us would say we’ve been changed by it. The way we relate to our friends and ourselves and our families – we’ve just learned and we keep learning them. It’s not like you get it all at once.

[It’s] ways to listen, the habit of not jumping to conclusions, the habit of being patient, of just being there for someone and letting them say what they have to say, not saying it for them, not deciding what it is they should say, not thinking about what they should be doing but just meeting them right where they are. And that’s what the 50 hours is practicing. It’s challenging but I just found it fantastic.

So the beginning of Stephen Ministry, being a Stephen Minster, was, in itself, a wonderful experience.

And then we got to the real thing: I know I can speak for all of us: we were just terrified. No more role playing in a safe little room with people that you trust. But being paired up with someone who has a real need, and if they didn’t they wouldn’t have asked for a Stephen Minister. So it’s a very very solemn feeling and kind of scary, it was for me, certainly.

One of the things that we learned and told each other and ourselves over and over and that I, at least, still have to really remember is that there are not two of us in the room, there’s the third party, that God is there and that that’s who’s doing the curing , that’s who’s doing the helping. The Stephen Minister is just there to be a conduit. At least, that’s the way I see it.

Regular Sunday Schedule

8:00 a.m. Holy Eucharist
9:15 a.m. worship.together (Eucharist for preschool families)
9:15 a.m. Parish Forum & Christian Education (Kairos)
10:30 a.m. Choral Eucharist

Other Days

Morning prayer is offered at 7:30 a.m. weekdays, in the Mary Chapel.

Silent morning meditation is offered at 8:15 a.m. weekdays, in the Mary Chapel.

Mid-week Eucharist is offered at 12:15 p.m. Wednesdays, in the Mary Chapel.

Compline is offered at 7:00 p.m. on 2nd & 4th Wednesdays, in the Church.

Choral Evensong is offered at 5:00 p.m. on 1st Sundays, Oct.-June, in the Church.

We would love to have you join us.


This Episcopal church is located in the heart of the historic neighborhood of Chestnut Hill, five blocks west of Germantown Avenue at the corner of St. Martin’s Lane and West Willow Grove Avenue.

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