Many, many times I’ve asked myself, asked God ... why [did] all these things happen to me?

Anita Kinsley

Looking back on her life as a lesbian, Anita Kinsley now recognizes several “ah ha” moments that for her affirm being a gay woman.

For me one of the key pieces that was a major “ah ha” happened at a conference a number of years ago in which there were a few of us doing a workshop on gay lesbian bisexual transgender intersex individuals. It’s an audience that – generally people will not self-select to go to that workshop so is does not show up on a registration sheet, yet the reality is that people show up and usually it’s standing room only. No one wants to write down on the registration sheet that goes to the fiscal director who approves it that they’re going to go to this workshop, yet loads of people show up.

And so here I find myself talking about my developmental process and what it’s like to live and be a lesbian as well conveying some really basic academic information. And at the end of one of these particular workshops a woman came up to me and thanked me so much because she said that she had been having a war with herself, beating herself up about maybe she did not raise her daughter properly or care for her daughter enough or love her daughter enough because her daughter was lesbian. And she realized that the only thing she needed to do was go home from the conference and love her daughter.

Many, many times in my life I’ve asked myself, I’ve asked God, I’ve asked friends, I’ve asked therapists – So why do you think all of these things happened to me? How is it that I find myself being an individual who was adopted at four days old, that I was an African American child adopted by two white individuals, that I turn up through all of this and discover on top of it I’m a lesbian?

A number of years ago, about 23 now, when I was standing in a church, holding my god daughter when she was being baptized, I said to myself, this is exactly the reason why all of these things have happened to you in your life that make you who you are today. Because there is this other generation that’s coming along who can possibly benefit and identify with what you’ve been though, and that you might be able to help her in some way as she faces the life that’s to come.

Regular Sunday Schedule

8:00 a.m. Holy Eucharist
9:15 a.m. worship.together (Eucharist for preschool families)
9:15 a.m. Parish Forum & Christian Education (Kairos)
10:30 a.m. Choral Eucharist

Other Days

Morning prayer is offered at 7:30 a.m. weekdays, in the Mary Chapel.

Silent morning meditation is offered at 8:15 a.m. weekdays, in the Mary Chapel.

Mid-week Eucharist is offered at 12:15 p.m. Wednesdays, in the Mary Chapel.

Compline is offered at 7:00 p.m. on 2nd & 4th Wednesdays, in the Church.

Choral Evensong is offered at 5:00 p.m. on 1st Sundays, Oct.-June, in the Church.

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This Episcopal church is located in the heart of the historic neighborhood of Chestnut Hill, five blocks west of Germantown Avenue at the corner of St. Martin’s Lane and West Willow Grove Avenue.

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